Jesus was no dummy. Scripture says he did not entrust himself to man, because he knew what was in the heart of man. (John 2:24)
In case you are not familiar, let me fill you in. In the heart of man[kind] you will find faithlessness, deceit, gossip, slander, hatred, anger, jealousy, selfishness, ambition and betrayal. And this is in those who love you!
I’ll be honest: it’s been a disappointing season of late where people and relationships are concerned. I think we have enough material to launch several seasons worth of “Christians Behaving Badly.” At its core, disappointment is when expectations are not met. Sometimes the problem is the expectations were unfair or unrealistic to start with… but sometimes it’s just that people, being people, fail. Expectations are not met, and we are left disappointed and hurt.
If you intend to spend any amount of time in any aspect of service or ministry, here is something you need to learn now: The very people you lay your life down for in love and service will be the very people who, at the least, will leave you, and more likely will attack you, if not crucify you.
This is not the bitter complaint or wounded whinings spilling out… this is just fact. Scripture backs it up over and over. Moses, David, Jesus, and Paul are just a few of the biblical leaders who we see pouring years of their lives to in leadership and service to the people of God, only to have those same people turn around and accuse, attack and abandon them. Usually when things got rough, I might add.
I’ve certainly been there, over and over again, and I know many others who have as well. Even recently, I extended myself, my home and my finances to host a party for longtime members of our ministry. Only two weeks later and halfway across the country I get the news of their gossip and judgment of the ministry to some shared acquaintances. This seems minor, but it hurts. And unfortunately, this and much worse behavior is all too common treatment of servants, leaders, and fathers in the faith.
So what do you do when the people who you lost sleep over, spent money on, prayed for, ministered to and laid your life down for walk away on you, or in a heartbeat turn and begin to attack you?
Some start lobbing their own grenades in counter-attack. Tempting, indeed, but not Christ-like. Some decide the cost of serving the Lord is simply not worth it, and walk away from ministry or the Church altogether, bleeding and wounded. Also tempting, but it doesn’t accomplish anything except rob the Body of Christ of some wonderfully gifted saints whose leadership and service we desperately need. Lately, I have to keep pulling my own mind and soul back to the response Jesus had: forgive and continue to fulfill his ministry destiny out of love and service to the Father.
There is nothing any of us face in ministry that Jesus did not also face and overcome. The Word says that he is able to sympathize with our weakness, having been tempted in every way. (Hebrews 4:15) And, no matter what he faced, he did not sin in his response. I certainly can’t claim that success in every situation yet, but that standard is what gives me both direction and hope when people disappoint and hurt me.
Jesus spent years teaching the crowds and pouring out his life to love and train his disciples. And where were they when things got hairy? Most abandoned him, Peter denied him and Judas betrayed him. And only a naive person would believe that there weren’t at least a few who shouted “hosanna” as Jesus rode in on the donkey, who then joined the crowed and shouted “crucify him” less than a week later. We certainly didn’t see the 5000 he fed with the loaves and fishes showing up to defend him, either.
And yet, Jesus didn’t get bitter, angry, wounded, mad at God, or walk away from what he was sent to do. Not only did he forgive them, he continued walking the path he knew was chosen for him and he died for those very same people! This is amazing to me, and keeps me in check when I start getting angry or in self-pity. I just ask myself, would I be willing to die for those people who are out there now saying rotten things about me? Would I extend myself in service to those who genuinely believe they are in the right in speaking or acting against me?
Anytime my answer isn’t ‘yes,’ I know I am the one who still needs to repent and become more like Jesus.
Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. And if this cup cannot pass me by, not my will but Yours be done.